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Emerson Counseling and Psychological Services (ECAPS) wrote a blog for student-athletes on the loss of their seasons during the pandemic. The blog also includes information on upcoming Mental Wellness workshops for student-athletes.

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Ivy Watts' Blog Of The Week

Ivy Watts' Blog Of The Week

March 1, 2021

Our lives can be full of comparison. We might feel like we are always falling short. We see someone else living the “perfect” life or experiencing the “perfect” relationship, and we feel like what we have isn’t good enough.

We look at where we once were and get frustrated with ourselves that we might not be in that space anymore. You might be longing for the past, a time where you felt more whole, more you.

When we compare, we forget to realize what is right in front of us and we forget to be proud of ourselves for what we do have, and to appreciate the here and now. When we compare, we forget that who we are is enough and unique. Although someone might be in a different point of life than you, that does not make your journey less valid. You might have an idea, and then find out others also had that same idea and are living out that idea well. Why can’t you also live out that idea and live it with your twist and perspective and add new important value to the topic? Well you can. You are unique and important as you are, comparing yourself only takes away from that, rather than celebrating yourself for who you are and what you bring to this world.

Focus on your here and now, focus on what you do have, focus on your abilities and know that your timing in all areas of your life will come as they should. I know it can be frustrating to sit and wait for that time, but in that time give yourself the grace you deserve by celebrating that other person for their accomplishments and then celebrating yourself for all you did to even get to this point, rather than comparing yourself to that person.

The truth is, we all spend some time comparing ourselves to others. Even that person you look up to has felt less than compared to someone else. So it’s okay to have moments of comparison, but just always come back to your sense of worth and know that things may be different or look different than your past or than somebody else’s story, but your story is incredibly beautiful and full of strength and resilience. Your story is continuously unfolding with every step you take. You have the power to write your story how you want to, so write it how you want to, not because you are trying to be like someone else, but because you are trying to be like you. Write your story for you, trust the universe and have faith that everything will work out as it should.

Don’t compare yourself to others or to your past. You are in your now and your now is beautiful.

Xo,

Be Beautifully Simply You

Read Ivy's other blogs and listen to her audio recordings at her website here.

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Emerson Student-Athlete Blog

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ECAPS Blog

The loss of a year of athletic seasons and continued uncertainty of the Spring season due to the global pandemic has created further impact on your life and wellbeing as a student-athlete at Emerson. This may have been your freshman year, your last season or a season that you were really excited about. You may sense a loss of memories with teammates and coaches and hard-fought wins on the field, track, or court. You may be missing the adversity you thought you might face and grieving the records you’ve dreamed of setting. Or you may miss using your sport as an outlet for your daily stresses. You have lost a sport that you love, a sport that brought you community and connection and a sport that has been a significant part of who you are.

Remember that you are not alone. For many of you not being able to play your beloved sport is an abrupt and painful loss. Since the onset of the pandemic most student athletes have experienced mental distress. Whether related to the loss of their seasons, anxiety and fear due to COVID-19 or isolation, many student athletes are facing challenges right now.

Honor your feelings. Some of you may feel angry, disappointed, sad or shocked. Others may feel numb, heartbroken or upset. You may have feelings that are completely different then your friends and teammates and please know that this is okay. Grief is not linear and is experienced differently by each of us. A range of feelings and emotions is completely normal while grieving loss. Below is a graphic that outlines stages of grief, which may relate to different feelings you may have or will experience:

Here are some ways to cope with the loss of your athletic season:

Reach out to teammates and coaches. You may not be able to practice and compete like you were able to, but you can still stay connected to your team. Reach out to your team members and find ways to stay connected to them. As teammates, you are able to support each other during this difficult time.

Create a daily routine. Most of you may have expected your schedules to be filled with class, practice, workouts and games. If you are used to a more structured schedule and your schedule has changed, you may have to revisit your daily routine. Use your extra time to explore new or existing hobbies, engage in self-care or workout. Create a routine that takes in the account your priorities, the rest and self-care you need and moments of joy.

Reach out for help. You may be experiencing anxiety, depression, insomnia and/or loss of appetite or you may be having challenges understanding your identity without a sport that is such an important part of your life. These are all common sentiments while grieving. If you need additional support, reach out to the Emerson Counseling and Psychological Services (ECAPS) to speak with a therapist. ECAPS will also be holding a workshop series for student athletes this Spring with sessions in February, March, and April. This will be an open dialogue with a former student-athlete and mental health professional to discuss feelings and receive support. The first session of the workshop series will take place on February 1st at 4PM. Follow this link to sign up! 

 

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